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On Homeschooling with Jeanne Dee – Part 3

by Sarah Morgan on August 30, 2010

Go here to see the first and second parts of my interview with Jeanne.

Despite your mobile lifestyle, have you created schedules, routines, assessments, tests, etc. – to make sure that Mozart is learning to the best of her ability?

I’m not a big one for tests or rigid schedules, but we do have routines and keep a close eye on progress. She was given a standard achievement test by a top center when she turned eight and tested way above age level – many areas were high school level and higher – so that was a good validation that our methods are working well.

We use the Core Knowledge books to make sure she is getting what is needed for her grade level and she is several years ahead of age peers. She is also working several years ahead in math than age peers and we use Singapore Math which is portable and cheap. It is the same curriculum they use there and they usually have the highest international math scores, year after year. We homeschool all year, so usually only do an hour or two every day of formal schooling. Math and music are always done, often the first thing after breakfast.

She also participates regularly in online classes with Johns Hopkins University’s CTY programs and always does extremely well in them, usually with kids that are older than her, so that is another indication – one has to qualify at gifted levels to take such classes.

She leads most of her own learning, but we facilitate by helping where it is needed and having excellent resources at her disposal. We provide teachers when needed, like her excellent piano, violin and Chinese teachers that she works with over webcams from another continent. We assign books related to our travels, book reports, daily journal writing, blogging, and look for learning opportunities through games, discussions, travel, reading aloud, talking with people we meet like archeologists at Ephesus or marine biologists in Portugal.

How does she feel about having an unusual style of schooling (and life!)?

It seems like normal life to her and I’m not sure she will really grasp all the advantages until she is older, but she does hear a lot about how lucky she is from people we meet as we travel. In many ways it is a normal life as she has spent the last four winters in the same small village , same small school with 6 sets of cousins in her class, and has bonded deeply with that community in her second language. I found it amazing to find out that in her 4th grade class in Europe, she was the only one who knew what a gondola was, had been in one and had been to Venice. It’s not that far, but I suppose, not much different than all the American kids that age who have never been out of their state. We also have spent much time in Barcelona at the beach and think of it as another one of our homes and have many friends here that we have spent time with over and over every year.

The kids are always really excited to see her and we will continue to nurture these relationships on a regular basis. She doesn’t really like school (recess and lunch have always been her favorite subjects no matter what bricks-and-mortar school she has gone to) and prefers to homeschool because of the greater autonomy and less time spent at it.

She is excited about starting a new school in Asia and improving her Mandarin. She thinks it is cool that the kids wear uniforms and take a bus, as she has never done these things.


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On Homeschooling with Jeanne Dee – Part 2

by Sarah Morgan on August 23, 2010

Go here to see the first part of my interview with Jeanne.

Do you think you would have decided to homeschool if you had remained in your house in California?

Yes, almost certainly, although I may have dipped into schools here and there if it seemed right or useful, like for language immersion. I love the freedom of homeschool. I’m really sorry that you had a bad experience with homeschooling, as I think that is rare. I’ve known many happy and successful homeschool families and my grown niece (who is a chemical engineer who graduated early from Rice, the top university in her field, got a 6-figure job before graduating, and bought her own home while still a teen) is a very successful example, so I have confidence in the method.

I’m not convinced that your homeschooling wasn’t a benefit for you, as look how well you have turned out, although it seems some differences could have helped a lot. I can’t help but be curious as to what would happen if you had been totally homeschooled, or if you had been totally schooled, as I think mixing school and homeschooling is more difficult. I was totally schooled (public schools) as was my husband (parochial school) and we tried many schools with our child (public, private, Montessori, Waldorf, gifted). Frankly, I think homeschool is a far superior method because you can gear it uniquely to the child. I sometimes think if I had to do it all over again, that I would not do ANY schooling with my child, as even with the best and tiniest schools, there is indoctrination, dogma, conformity, compliance and rigidity.

It’s truly a myth that homeschool is not good for socialization and that schools are. The opposite is true in my experience and the many studies that I have read. I think it is unnatural to keep kids imprisoned all day, doing mostly boring, rote learning for tests, and to only socialize with kids born their same year on short recesses. I think kids should be part of the community and socialize with people of ALL ages, have plenty of free time for self development and self-led learning, and that they are much better off being parent-attached and not peer-led with a Lord of the Flies mentality. Teachers are much too busy to monitor the ugliness, name calling, brutality and viciousness that goes on in schools between kids. NO ONE will love your child like you do and loving is the key to socialization. You know I’m a big fan of the book Hold Onto Your Kids:Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers and admire the Colfax family for living off the grid and sending three homeschooled boys to Harvard.

Mozart went to an amazing private kindergarten in California on a rural, 15-acre farm with animals, orchards and gardens they used to teach hands-on; with innovative, creative teachers trained in standard teaching as well as Montessori and Waldorf methods. They had classes as pottery, archery, unicycle, plays, stilt walking and juggling, etc. I volunteered daily, but even in that wonderful school with just 6 other kids in her class and less than 50 in the whole school and very involved parents, I was amazed at how hard it was to give the kids individual attention. It was still a mass-produced, dogmatic, inflexible experience. I learned that I could do much better on my own and save a ton of money to boot! I spent one full day there a week inside the classroom helping with literacy skills and could see for myself how much easier it was to just work with my own child. Two parents to one child is MUCH better odds. ;) I also volunteered at her excellent public school and I observed it as even worse, despite it being a small, rich school with many volunteers and an assistant in every room. The school in Spain works, because we are there strictly for the language immersion. It’s very short hours and short months, and they let us come and go as we please.

Schools are usually extremely rigid and political places (families who volunteer and add money to the school have more clout). They are not made to deal with exceptions – but every child is unique. Schools, sadly, are about learning for the test, and learning how to obey rules, not learning for learning’s sake. There are wonderful teachers out there, but most are hampered by the system and number of students. I don’t think our education system has worked for a long time and is totally not suited for the “new economy”.

When I see bright young adults who were unschooled like Ev Bogue or Eli Gerzon, or think of ones in the past like Margaret Mead, George Bernard Shaw, Thomas Edison, Jane Austen, etc., I feel confident that thinking and schooling differently will be the most supportive way to educate my unique child.


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Living Goal-Less

by Sarah Morgan on August 13, 2010

Leo Babuta just wrote a wonderful post on Zen Habits called “The Best Goal Is No Goal.” In it he says:

[W]ake up and do what you’re passionate about. For me, that’s usually blogging, but it can be writing a novel or an ebook or my next book or creating a course to help others or connecting with incredible people or spending time with my wife or playing with my kids. There’s no limit, because I’m free. In the end, I usually end up achieving more than if I had goals, because I’m always doing something I’m excited about. But whether I achieve or not isn’t the point at all: all that matters is that I’m doing what I love, always. I end up in places that are wonderful, surprising, great. I just didn’t know I would get there when I started.

It sounded similar to a conversation I’d had with a friend, in which I said:

Try not to worry about What You’re Doing With Your Life. What you ARE doing right now is massive and not everybody can do it. Appreciate that you’re lucky enough to be able to do this right now. Do it and make the most of it. The next phase of life will come along, but this is where you are now. Maybe this phase doesn’t show you the next step, but it’s still pretty cool the way it is. That’s what I try to tell myself, anyway. I have so many blessings, and while there are some that I’d like to see ahead of me, I have to trust that this feels right because it IS right, and the next door will open at the right time.

Except that, while I might sound all smart and together, you may have noticed, as I have, that it’s an awful lot easier to give advice than to really live it, and an awful lot easier to say you’re doing something, than to do it every day. Also, it’s a lot easier to talk in generalities, as I was, than in specifics, as Leo goes on to do in his post.

Sitting still and just being. Appreciating. Going through the day without a to-do list and listening to what your brain and heart are telling you.

Being without goals is in itself a worthy goal. For Leo, for my wonderful friend, but most of all, for me.

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Less Than Excellent

by Sarah Morgan on August 9, 2010

I got my oil changed this weekend, and at the end, as always, they warned me that I would get surveyed.

Note: Honda makes wonderful cars. They make wonderful dealerships. They make wonderful service departments. They hire wonderful people. But holy hell, they survey you to death. Every time I see them, they survey me. Then the dealership calls to survey me again. Then Honda of North America calls to survey me. Honda: I have a lot of opinions, but even I do not have enough opinions to make all this surveying worth your while.

Anyway. When I paid, the cashier warned me that I’d be surveyed, and cheerily informed me that “anything less than excellent is failure for us”. And then when the dealership called to check on me, they, too, told me that I’d be getting another call, and again reminded me that “anything less than excellent is failure”.

I’m not yet enough a curmudgeon to take these issues up with people making minimum wage and reading a script, but honestly, this makes me nuts. Anything less than excellent is failure? This is the problem with our country today: we’ve come to believe this, and we’re raising generations of kids who believe it too, and I think it’s garbage.

Because if anything less than excellent is failure, when you try something and are terrible at it, you should give up. And you shouldn’t get praise for working your tail off if it didn’t produce a perfect result. And heaven forbid young impressionable children are allowed to experience anything other than being excellent, because that would obviously be the worst thing in the world.

My oil change was perfectly fine. But I wasn’t fed grapes, and they made me watch the Today show, and I didn’t get a mint left on my dashboard. But I was perfectly satisfied until they started harping about excellence.

Isn’t good enough ever good enough?

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